faceplanting

i'm envisioning myself getting in contact with p because i'm publishing a book and one of the main characters was inspired by my time with him.

i used to think a life partner had to be my everything -- best friend, constant emotional support, lover. but living with p showed me how two people who have very little in common can live together peaceably, even having a degree of fun once in a while. maybe every day wouldn't be a carnival party of excitement with p, but it really wouldn't obliterate our relationship in the end the way co-habitation can ruin even some of the best relationships.

it makes me see that just because i have a lot in common with a guy on an intellectual or spiritual level doesn't mean our intense connection would prove a compatible practical commitment. v and i met at a particular philosophical place, briefly. nothing else was compatible, but i was bored with my own circumstances and willing to take on his facade as a new perspective experience. it was a trip -- and i was the one who ended up faceplanting.